Maria Popova: By the Book

I subscribe to a newsletter called Brain Pickings where I recently read a lovely story about Nobel laureate John Steinbeck. I got to know Steinbeck well in college through reading many of his books; I still consider him one of my favorite writers. You can read it in full in Steinbeck: A Life in Letters public library. In a preceding letter to Steinbeck, Thom revealed to his father that he was deeply in love. Steinbeck certainly was versed in the importance of love in our lives. Another key ingredient in finding true love is understanding there are different kinds of love we experience throughout our lives.

She’s Got Some Big Ideas

We simply cannot cope with the fundamental precariousness of it all. And so: When some cataclysm in the slipstream capsizes the raft, shatters it, leaves us gasping amid the flotsam, ejected from the familiar flow of time — do we sink or sing? We cannot, we must not, after all, expect a white male monarch — however penetrating his insight into human nature, whatever the similitudes of that elemental nature across cultures and civilizations — to speak for and to all of humanity across all of time.

With an eye to the capitalist commodification of time in a culture of utilitarian busyness, Smith considers how society ordinarily weighs the cultural and temporal responsibility of the artist:. Why did you bake that banana bread? The something that artists have always done is more usually cordoned off from the rest of society, and by mutual agreement this space is considered a sort of charming but basically useless playpen, in which adults get to behave like children — making up stories and drawing pictures and so on — though at least they provide some form of pleasure to serious people, doing actual jobs… As a consequence, art stands in a dubious relation to necessity — and to time itself.

If you’re a journalist or writer making at least part of your living on the Internet, heed this lesson: Don’t lie or mislead. Pretty simple, really.

On Being with Krista Tippett. She cross-pollinates between philosophy and design, physics and poetry, the intellectual and the experiential. We explore her gleanings on what it means to lead a good life — intellectually, creatively, and spiritually. We revisit my conversation with her on what it means to lead a good life — intellectually, creatively, and spiritually.

Maria Popova: We never see the world exactly as it is. We see it as we hope it will be or we fear it might be. And we spend our lives going through modified stages of grief about that realization. We deny it, and then we argue with it, and we despair over it. But eventually — and this is my belief — that we come to see it, not as despairing, but as vitalizing.

Maria Popova on Writing, Workflow, and Workarounds (#39)

Jung letter to J. Today we recommend an article by Maria Popova from Brainpickins blog. Popova writes:.

A letterpress printed tribute to Maria Popova’s meditation on 7 things she learned in light on what younger men should keep in mind while dating older women.

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Brain-Picking Session

The request came from a former co-worker. His employer a for-profit business was hosting an event and needed insights from a local with in-depth knowledge on a topic that I have covered in a weekly column for years. There might be a couple writing assignments in it for me, he said as he wrapped up the email. I replied with some resources and an offer to connect him with a trade organization that could be of help, and — I thought — a friendly bit of advice about that dreaded request: to nix it.

And I closed by letting him know I’m available on a consulting — read: paid — basis if my expertise was further needed.

“When someone needs to say no [to a brain picking request] and they matter what, and you can slip out for an hour to take a coffee date,” she said. of time, like recommending an online resource — and make it convenient.

Why are we the way we are, as individuals and as larger societies? In her relentless effort to answer this question, theorist Renata Salecl mines law, sociology, criminology, philosophy, and psychoanalysis to arrive at some unsettling conclusions. Salecl—who researches and teaches at universities in her native Slovenia, in New York, and in London—argues that the modern, capitalism-driven imperative to become masters of our own lives leads to personal and social paralysis.

Constant anxiety, kept alive in more-or-less conscious ways by the political system and by the media, further numbs our social criticism. Many people opt to tune out and live in denial. You have a choice: You can read this blog post, or not. Or you can read one of 80 other blog posts from this conference.

In the game of online dating, men and women try to level up, study finds

In the world of online dating, men and women are looking to find someone a little out of their league, according to a new study. The findings, published in the journal Science Advances, shed new light on the patterns and priorities of men and women when playing the online dating game. Researchers have long tried to pin down the behaviors that drive people to choose particular romantic partners.

Couples, married or not, tend to have similar ages, educations, levels of attractiveness and a host of other characteristics.

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Jacobs is the kind of Silicon Valley founder that makes the rest of them look bad. He gets drunk in public, gropes women at the bar, and is having an affair with an unpaid intern. Polpeo, a subsidiary of the social media management firm eModeration, specializes in a novel new corporate exercise: the simulated brand crisis. Police officers train for various crises all the time; so do airline pilots. Protect the brand or die trying: inside a fake social media crisis — Casey Newton, The Verge 20 March If nothing else happens, you still had fun.

Plus, this stuff is fun. There is a reason why so many of us are drawn to it and then find it hard to break the habit and the reason is that is fun. Different social media networks suit different people and also we change. No reason. Some people love LinkedIn though the rest of us wonder why. But writer Julie Schwietert Collazo argues that we should use it more and she gives several reasons.

How to ‘pick someone’s brain’ the right way

The question of how love works has bedeviled writers and scientists for centuries. But how do the dynamics of romance differ in the age of online dating? And these days, algorithms, too.

A Brain Pickings Best Science Book of “Rudder is the co-founder of the dating site OKCupid and the data scientist behind its now-legendary trend.

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Alain de Botton on Love